Heads in the sand for our teenagers


Posted by Candy | Posted in Misc | Posted on 25-05-2010

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I was reading the news after lunch today and ran across this news story out of Virginia. Today is also Tuesday which means I might get bonus points from Dynila for her Tuesday Tirade thing she does sometimes.

Let me first say that I don’t have a teenager, so maybe you can say that I don’t understand teeangers. Fine. Whatever. But I want to know why this administration thinks they can just go reprint the damn yearbooks? What was so horrible? Do you mean to tell me that you don’t know your kid might be getting high? Oh wait, you don’t know that some of them get abortions without your knowledge? You don’t know what they are aware of the rest of the world? What? Little Perfect Mary Sue would never do that right? And you don’t want that filth in your yearbook, right? Guess what? It’s out there. And your Little Miss Perfect has probably even gotten drunk and done something stupid. Most teenagers do (except for me, of course, mom, I was one of the few perfect teenagers! Really!)

The point is that this was a pretty neat project that the student body and yearbook staff took on. They asked for secrets. The administration had to have known they were soliciting for them. They probably even thought it was neat themselves given the current popularity of PostSecret (and if you say you’ve never looked, you are LYING). It’s the perfect thing to include for so many reasons. The least of which is that high school isn’t all cheerleaders and pep rallies. There are kids with real thoughts and real things to process and yes, some deep dark secrets to share. No one was hurt in doing it.

So I want to know why the administration is now taking all the yearbooks back? Because some parents got upset? Really? Because they knew it was going on and they HAD TO HAVE KNOWN the yearbook staff was doing the piece. Just once I want to see school administrators stand up and say “No. Our students did this. You may not like it, but it was published with our knowledge. I’m sorry it offended you, but this was their project done by them and their peers and we stand behind it.”

But no. They are too busy kowtowing to those few enraged parents. I bet those same parents are trying to get books banned too. Oh, that’s another rant.

Okay, so I feel better. What a crock.

Comments (4)

Having 3 teenagers… I think you are right Candy. Trying to hide the dark stuff doesn’t make it go away. Now that I am living (surviving) through the teenage years I can see how easy it would be for a parent to live in denial and just not deal. It’s so much easier that way. It frustrates me to see how many parents actually do turn a blind eye…

I remember my high school year book full of all the cheerleaders and pep rallies and nothing else. I felt left out.

I lost a friend to suicide in high school – perhaps if he would have known he wasn’t the only one having dark, scary feelings he may not have felt so alone and hopeless.

PS. I think you are going to be a great parent because you live on the side of reality and that is what teens respond. They like real, authentic people not perfect people.
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Aw, thanks Sally. I just think it’s ridiculous that they think the whole yearbook has to be reprinted over this. I think it’s an awesome idea for the yearbook. Bad stuff happens too, but more than that, maybe the kids won’t feel so alone. What a crock. As far as perfect, I try, but nay. I’m not perfect. Sigh.

Heck, if my yearbook had included something like that I might use it for more than “wait, who’s this person who’s trying to friend me?”.

But expecting a school administration to grow a pair, especially when school boards are generally made up of the loudest cranks to scream in the community, is probably more than is reasonable.

Having a Pre-teen (12, going on 18), I know the bad stuff is out there, I know she’ll experiment, and I’m prepared for that. Its a fact of life and I am not going to try to hide it, nor should she.

But, first-off let me say, if the administration knew how the project was going (and someone should have because nothing should go on without some sort of faculty advisor), then they should have stepped in BEFORE the yearbooks actually went to print. If the faculty advisor allowed that to happen, then that person needs to be reprimanded. Severely. Teachers are there to teach and to lead and to be great role models. They are not there to instill THEIR values on children that don’t belong to them.

If the administration DIDN’T know – then why not? Why would the students be allowed to make those decisions without some sort of faculty oversight?

If there was a faculty advisor who allowed it to happen, that person needs to be solely responsible for the cost of reprinting because that was a stupid decision.

Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but until kids are OUT of high school (meaning diploma in hand) there needs to be constant and consistent vigilance as to what they’re doing. They’re kids. they may be able to make decisions, and a lot of the time they’re very good decisions. HOWEVER, until they reach a certain age, they’re the responsibility of the parents and the teachers that have been chosen to guide them.

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